INCOMING!! Positive Discipline Training for Parents…but first we celebrate!
即将来临！！家长正面管教培训……但首先我们庆祝一下！

Hip Hip Hooray!
嘻嘻祝贺!

After the Chinese New Year, we will be arranging the next set of official Positive Discipline training for our parent community…watch this space for updates! In the meantime, we are thrilled to share more exciting news about our schoolwide journey towards developing a school environment and culture of Positive Discipline. On 24th-25th January, our support teachers in the PYP successfully completed their Positive Discipline training. This is yet another accomplishment that cements our teachers’ dedication to creating a nurturing and supportive learning environment for your children.

农历新年之后，我们将为家长安排下一组官方正面管教培训……请关注此空间以获取更新信息！与此同时，我们很高兴与大家分享更多关于我们在全校范围内发展正面管教学校环境和文化的激动人心的消息。1月24日至25日，我们小学项目的助教老师们顺利完成了正面管教培训。这项成就，提升了我们老师为您的孩子创造一个培育和支持性学习环境的奉献精神。

Positive Discipline is an approach to teaching that helps children develop self-discipline, responsibility, cooperation, and problem-solving skills. Following the Alderian Theory of Individual Psychology, Positive Discipline is based on the understanding that children are more likely to be well-behaved when they feel a sense of belonging and significance within their community. This approach also plays a crucial role in building self-awareness, and emotional control and reducing anger, as it emphasises mutual respect, empathy, and conflict resolution skills.

The benefits of Positive Discipline extend beyond individual students to the entire school community. It fosters an environment where students feel valued, respected, and empowered to take responsibility for their actions. This approach also promotes a sense of community and collaboration among students, teachers, and parents, creating a positive and supportive school culture.

正面管教是一种帮助孩子培养自律、责任、合作和解决问题技能的教学方法。依照阿德勒个体心理学理论，正面管教是基于这样的理解：当孩子在社区中感受到归属感和重要性时，他们更有可能表现良好。这种方法在建立自我意识、情绪控制和减少愤怒方面也发挥着至关重要的作用，因为它强调相互尊重、同理心和解决冲突的技能。

正面管教的好处不仅限于个别学生，还包括整个学校社区。它营造了一个让学生感到受到重视、尊重并有权为自己的行为负责的环境。这种方法还促进了学生、教师和家长之间的社区意识和协作意识，创造了积极和支持性的学校文化。

Below is a recount of the training from one of our support teachers, Ms. Christie Qiu:
以下是我们的一位助教老师 Christie Qiu 女士对培训的回顾：

‘I attended the school’s training on positive discipline last week, which has left a lasting impact on me. If teachers understand the purpose behind their students’ various behaviours and provide education in a kind and firm manner; if teachers and students respect and trust each other and if children receive continuous encouragement from teachers, then their growth path will be full of confidence and love. These are all practices advocated by the positive discipline approach.

Our trainer, Ms. Olivia Zhang (张华燕) is a qualified senior psychological counsellor and positive discipline instructor, who is also a distinguished lecturer of parent-child courses at Guangzhou Cultural Center. She provided her expertise and guidance that led to many new realisations and deeper understandings.

During the training, Olivia used various roleplay games to allow us to think from others’ perspectives and understand the behavioural psychology of children. Often, as adults, we can take what we already know for granted and only consider our own viewpoint. It’s important to understand that children (as well as other adults) hold different perspectives and may need to understand in different ways. We therefore must learn to truly listen and understand effectively.

There was a small game during the interaction in the training class that left a deep impression on me. Ten people participants stood on chairs in a large circle, whilst two others took the role of the children and stood outside the circle to communicate with the adults in turn. When standing in front of adults, the children repeated “I am just a child, I need attention.” Adults were assigned a passage or action based on their role. The ten characters were father, mother, nanny, teacher, brother, sister, etc. The child actors in the first round received lines that contained negativity, anger, impatience, complaints, accusations, or neglect. After the round, Olivia asked the two child actors how they felt, and the answers they got were: fear, confusion, disappointment, grievance, timidity, and feeling overwhelmed – this is very likely to happen in a child’s day…

When we see a child coming to us unhappy, it is difficult for us to know what he or she has just experienced. Without trust and listening, we cannot open the child’s heart. Effective communication will not occur if adults stand on commanding heights or fight against them…

In the second round of the game, the adults all got off their chairs, and both sides faced each other from an equal perspective. The adults had to make amends for the previous verbal behaviour: paying attention to the child, hugging the child, apologising, and listening. This time, the training teacher asked the children about their new feelings again, and the answers they received were calmness, relief, relaxation, attention, and a feeling of love.

After the game, everyone felt a little heavy. The sense of substitution made us reflect. The bad language and attitude of adults towards children are like swords and chasms, which push education to the negative side. However, positive discipline can turn things into spring breezes and nourish children silently.’ – Christie Qiu Y2G

“上周参加了学校关于正面管教的培训，我感觉受益匪浅。如果老师可以了解自己学生各种行为背后的目的；如果老师可以和善而坚定地实施教育；如果师生之间可以互相尊重和信任；如果孩子可以受到老师持续的鼓励，那么，他们的成长之路就会充满自信和关爱。以上都是正面管教理念里提倡的做法。

我们的培训师张华燕 (Ms. Olivia)是一名资深心理咨询师和正面管教导师，也是广州文化中心亲子课程特聘讲师。她提供的专业知识和指导带来了许多新的认识和更深入的理解。

Olivia在给我们培训时设计了很多小游戏，让我们换位思考，了解孩子的行为心理。通常，作为成年人，我们会认为我们已经知道的事情是理所当然的，只考虑我们自己的观点。而重要的是要了解儿童（以及其他成年人）持有不同的观点，并且可能需要以不同的方式进行理解。因此，我们必须学会真正有效地倾听和理解。

培训课互动时有一个小游戏给我留下了深刻的印象。十个人坐在椅子上围成一个大圈，另外两人则扮演孩子的角色站在圈外，轮流与大人交流。当孩子扮演者站在大人面前时，重复着“我只是个孩子，我需要关注”。成年人根据他们的角色被分配一个段落或动作。这十个角色分别是父亲、母亲、保姆、老师、兄弟、姐妹等。第一轮的儿童扮演者收到的台词包含消极、愤怒、不耐烦、抱怨、指责或忽视。一轮结束后，奥利维亚询问两位孩子扮演者的感受，他们的答案是：恐惧、困惑、失望、委屈、胆怯、不知所措——这很可能发生在孩子的生活中……

当我们看到一个孩子不高兴地向我们走来时，我们很难知道他或她刚刚经历了什么。没有信任和倾听，我们就无法打开孩子的心。如果成年人站在制高点或孩子的对立面，就不会发生有效的沟通……

第二轮比赛，大人们都从椅子上站起来，双方以平等的视角相对，大人要对刚才的语言行为进行补救：关注孩子、拥抱孩子、道歉和倾听。这次，培训老师再询问孩子扮演者的新感受，得到的回答是：平静、释怀、轻松、感受到关注，感受到爱。

比赛结束后，大家心情都有些沉重。代入感让我们反思。大人对孩子的不良语言和态度像利剑和鸿沟把教育推向反面，然而，正面管教的方式可以春风化雨，给孩子润物无声。” – Christie Qiu Y2G

In the new year, there will be an opportunity for parents to learn about the Positive Discipline approach from an esteemed and highly experienced Positive Discipline trainer, Ms. Olivia. Watch this space for more information in future posts! Her video can be seen below:
在新的一年里，家长将有机会向受人尊敬且经验丰富的正面管教培训师Olivia女士学习正面管教方法。请关注此空间以获取更多更新信息！她的视频如下：

We want to take this opportunity to express our gratitude for the teachers’ unwavering dedication to providing the best possible learning experience for your children. Their ongoing pursuit of excellence in education is truly commendable.

Let’s join together in celebrating this significant achievement and the positive impact it will have on the UISG community!

我们想借此机会对老师们坚定不移地致力为您的孩子提供最佳学习体验表示感谢。他们对卓越教育的不懈追求确实值得赞扬。

让我们一起庆祝这一重要成就及其对 UISG 社群的正面影响！

Written by Jonathan Harris (Assistant Head of Primary & PYP Coordinator) & Christie Qiu (Y2G Teaching Assistant)
作者：Jonathan Harris（小学部助理校长兼 PYP 协调员）和 Christie Qiu（Y2G 助教）